tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post780859345636030405..comments2023-10-24T07:53:53.130-07:00Comments on Dating Is Weird: The Back StoryS.G.Loughlinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05848043332676380294noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-56367386877843097532009-03-19T08:40:00.000-07:002009-03-19T08:40:00.000-07:00@IW: You rule. Who puts legitimate poetry on this ...@IW: You rule. Who puts legitimate poetry on this potty mouthed blog?<BR/><BR/>Someone who cares.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-72880402102940994532009-03-18T16:17:00.000-07:002009-03-18T16:17:00.000-07:00Thanks, IW. Loverly.Thanks, IW. <BR/><BR/>Loverly.Serial Monogamisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06240343915323669214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-66369346655501006062009-03-18T16:14:00.000-07:002009-03-18T16:14:00.000-07:00maybe it's typical of those who do what i do for a...maybe it's typical of those who do what i do for a living, but i like to tell stories. not lies--but i like to be known and clearly understood. i also want to know everything about damned near everything--even when i'm probably better off not knowing. <BR/><BR/>everyone we've loved, lost or been with has contributed to who we are now--the beloved partner of the new beloved. tell what you need to tell; ask what you want to know.<BR/><BR/>Neruda said it so much better than we can (all of us being psycho, after all). if your potential mate doesn't understand that DIW (and always has been), you'd best keep looking. <BR/><BR/>splendid hubby and i like this one lots. hope you also enjoy.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Always<BR/> <BR/>I am not jealous<BR/>of what came before me.<BR/><BR/>Come with a man <BR/>on your shoulders,<BR/>come with a hundred men in your hair,<BR/>come with a thousand men between your breasts and your feet,<BR/>come like a river<BR/>full of drowned men<BR/>which flows down to the wild sea,<BR/>to the eternal surf, to Time!<BR/><BR/>Bring them all<BR/>to where I am waiting for you;<BR/>we shall always be alone,<BR/>we shall always be you and I<BR/>alone on earth<BR/>to start our life.itinerantwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11819605375231228572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-89721285917828959082009-03-18T11:25:00.000-07:002009-03-18T11:25:00.000-07:00@BO. Nice. Good call.@BO. Nice. Good call.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-32488804548745345682009-03-17T16:18:00.000-07:002009-03-17T16:18:00.000-07:00@DIW: No I didn't and won't tell my friend. The bf...@DIW: No I didn't and won't tell my friend. The bf/gf wasn't asking awful questions and the intent was not malicious. It just felt weird. I try not to get in people's shit (literally and figuratively), and for me to give the bf/gf info would be getting in the shit. For me to tell friend about it would also be getting in the shit.<BR/><BR/>I got my own shit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-83292556124935935982009-03-17T15:25:00.000-07:002009-03-17T15:25:00.000-07:00So people really have these "safety" conversations...So people really have these "safety" conversations? Because even though I know I should, I never do. Never.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-37056811888432738012009-03-17T14:30:00.000-07:002009-03-17T14:30:00.000-07:00ICCG: "Beware the guy who calls every ex a psycho....ICCG: "Beware the guy who calls every ex a psycho."<BR/><BR/>YES. True of anyone you meet. I heard someone once say something like "You'll meet a lot of assholes in life, but if all you meet are assholes, maybe you're the asshole."<BR/><BR/>And DIW: I don't know that I'd want to pry about the last breakup, but if it never came up at all, wouldn't that be kind of a bad sign? Like there's something to hide? And you can tell a lot about someone by the way they characterize things.Serial Monogamisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06240343915323669214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-32029192775507129772009-03-17T14:28:00.000-07:002009-03-17T14:28:00.000-07:00Need to know: -Anything that will affect the other...Need to know: <BR/>-Anything that will affect the other person(think diseases or children).<BR/>-You're a serial cheater.<BR/><BR/>Somewhere down the line: <BR/>-Any odd sex fetishes you might have that you may one day wish to involve your new lover in. <BR/>-The time you "tried" a Viagra and ended up with an 8 hour erection which landed you in the emergency room with a cute nurse who couldn't help you any more than your girlfriend had (bless your girlfriend's heart, though, she tried her best to fix it for you).<BR/>-*The fact that you've slept with more than one of your new lover's acquaintances (this can go in the 'never' category if you're sure said acquaintances will never share your secret).<BR/><BR/>Never: <BR/>-Numbers (unimportant, and like ICG said, irrelevant). <BR/>-See *LaMohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17668460811077019132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-81190575491937858042009-03-17T13:51:00.000-07:002009-03-17T13:51:00.000-07:00I disagree on the last break up. If he wants to sh...I disagree on the last break up. If he wants to share, cool. If not, I'm not going to pry. Those things tend to come up anyway. Maybe it's because I live in such a small town and you end up dating friends of exes. Or maybe it's because I'm not a big fan of knowing things about people they haven't told me themselves. <BR/><BR/>And BO: did you tell friend about new bf and/or gf pumping you for info?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-61414983600334067282009-03-17T13:27:00.000-07:002009-03-17T13:27:00.000-07:00The safety stuff should come up way before you con...The safety stuff should come up way before you consider dating--- unless you're one of those "saving-myself" types.<BR/>Having decided that I actually want to see somebody on a regular basis and/or date them, their last break-up is key info. <BR/>Beware the guy who calls every ex a psycho. Chances are the "psycho" is actually the person right in front of you. Think: common denominator.<BR/>As for sharing "numbers"--- if it's a safety concern, it's irrelevant. It only takes one!<BR/>The "numbers" issue tends to be more a moral and cultural landmine--- too many (slut), not enough (inexperienced)...Infamous CoatCheck Girl™https://www.blogger.com/profile/16948218395747316780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-58448533223347726432009-03-17T13:21:00.000-07:002009-03-17T13:21:00.000-07:00BO: You did the right thing there, I say. Why the ...BO: You did the right thing there, I say. Why the crap is the person not comfortable asking the person they're dating about that stuff? I say it's totally legit to Google someone new you're dating, though. Mandatory, even.Serial Monogamisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06240343915323669214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-47910120507847605302009-03-17T13:10:00.000-07:002009-03-17T13:10:00.000-07:00Too Much: “I masturbate four or five times a day....Too Much: “I masturbate four or five times a day.” TMI dude. As long as he’s still good in bed then his arm/hand exercise regimen is working for the both of ya’s.<BR/><BR/>Not Enough: “I have a thing for having sex with hookers.” That should be shared; you kind of want to know if he’s getting some with skanky whores on a regular basis. Then get yourself to the nearest clinic.<BR/><BR/>Sort of on the same topic: what do you do if a friend’s new boyfriend/girlfriend starts pumping you for info about her/him? How much, if anything, do you share? I don’t know how much my friend has shared with his/her new bf/gf (and it's none of my business anyways), and all a’sudden the new bf/gf is contacting me asking questions about said friend. That feels wrong. I flat out told the new gf/bf that I don’t go there, that my friend was my friend long b4 I knew ya’, so--no dice from me. Right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-72996576257140574842009-03-17T13:09:00.000-07:002009-03-17T13:09:00.000-07:00If I think the relationship is going somewhere, I ...If I think the relationship is going somewhere, I always ask about fidelity. If they cheated, own up to it and a recognize that they've done wrong - then we can proceed. If they admit to cheating, and try to justify is - I walk.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3434361004754663779.post-40450397408541794962009-03-17T12:59:00.000-07:002009-03-17T12:59:00.000-07:00I wanna know why they broke up with their last par...I wanna know why they broke up with their last partner, were they safe, did he get tested? Those are questions to be asked before you wake up itching...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com