Monday, September 21, 2009

High maintenance

I recently went out on a perfectly fine little first date. Date was on time, cute enough, and the conversation was good. So good, in fact, that we were both shocked to discover that it was nearly 2 a.m.

As I waited for a cab, he stood on the curb with me, close enough to smell. Smelled nice. We talked about seeing "Action Flick by That One Really Good Director," and he said he'd call me to arrange it, told me he would be out of town for a couple of days, but he'd be back by midweek. As my cab pulled up, I saw him going for a kiss, but I was feeling like dragging things out (anticipation can be fun), so I have him a hug, a big smile and a wink, and I was off.

A week later, nay, more than a week later, I got a text:

"Seen Action Flick Yet?"

I was a little confused about why it had taken so long to make any contact, but I shrugged and replied:

"Not yet."

A week later, I sent a text:

"Cat got your tongue? Well, no worries, I'll see it solo. Best, June."

He replied:
"No no, my friend. I just wasn't particularly enthused by your response. What time do you get off work this week?"

Really, internet? Would you go out with a guy who's that high-maintenance? I mean, what did he want, a smiley face emoticon at the end of the text?

Is there an emoticon that means "Fat Chance"?


Anonymous said...

The text reading "not yet" yeah not so smart move. Guys are simple creatures, you have to explain things better. Also dont expect from a man what you would from a woman. You seem a little clueless on this issue!

f1trey said...

poor communication sucks........

Shiny Rod said...

I know I can read most peoples tone by the way they write but WTF? One, if you promise to be back with someone by midweek and you text them a week later, well, I think that would probably be the end of the any future dates unless there was good reason like death in the family, etc. I guess I'm big on communicating. Even if it's not good news. Frowney face usually works with the "WTF did you mean by that?" response followed by "You blew your chance". Besides, he disreagrded dating rule number one. Never kiss on the first date unless of course you want that to be your last date. Or does that rule apply any more?

June said...


Your comment assumes that I have an interest in attracting simpletons.

No thanks. You can keep 'em.



Anonymous said...


Haha you will leave the simple ones to me? That sounds fine with me, only one issue, that leaves no one left for you. No wonder this guy ran from you. Thanks love! :-)

June said...

Now now 'Nonny. Making assumptions is never a good idea. Why would you think I don't have a bright and shiny one warming up my bed right now?

Let's just bury the hatchet, though, shall we? There's room and boys enough for the both of us out there. Promise.

plumpdumpling said...

Yeah, I'm not sure I would've been super-excited to ask you out after the "not yet", either. However, I would've immediately texted back something snarky that would've given you the chance to tell me how you were just playing it cool and actually did want to see me again.

You're entitled to your matter-of-factness, but I can see how a not-totally-confident guy (perhaps one who really likes you and is therefore made nervous by you) would need a little more to go on.

Polly Syllabick said...

I'd say that the suggestive ellipses (...) at the end of a matter-of-fact answer works best with the boys. They see the dotdotdot and even the most mundane text sounds suggestive:

A. "I'm buying milk."
B. "I'm buying milk..."

That being said, I recently did the whole week-between-unenthusiastic-texts date guy thing and it ended up being messy and disappointing. Why did it take him so long to ask if you'd seen the movie? If he was really "in to" you, why didn't he follow up even after your more cryptic "not yet." text? I hope I'm not being discouraging for no reason. If you're interested, go for it, but I'd proceed with caution.

Anonymous said...

eww. i'm with you on this one, June. if he has a problem with a less-than-enthusiastic text response, then perhaps he should learn to pick up the damn phone in the first place, like he told you he would.


Alecia said...

He wasn't that enthused with your response? I'm not that enthused by his question. Did he or did he not state that he would text/call you to arrange things? If that were the case, that then implies that he's going to ask you to go with him. Shouldn't that have been his question instead of one that implies you couldn't wait for him? Perhaps he was put off by the non-kiss ending of the date.

Regardless, if you're already annoyed how could you end up as anything less in the long run? Probably won't. I'd go see it by myself and text him the ending. :)

Anonymous said...

Yeah I'm with him on this one. Anyone who doesn't actually express their interest is misunderstood at their own peril (and predictably June, come on...).